Do you remember the first time you made a speech to an audience? How many people were you addressing? What did you wear? How did you deal with your nerves?
Like many others all over the world yesterday, I watched the Duchess of Cambridge’s first speech and I was thoroughly impressed. No matter what you think of the monarchy, private education and image, you will no doubt appreciate what a scary thing it must have been for this young woman to stand up and speak knowing that she was being broadcast around the world.
What Kate (if I may be so bold) demonstrated is that there are tricks you can employ to control your nerves.
- make sure you are very familiar with your speech (rumour has it she wrote it herself). Personally I think it’s absolutely acceptable to read from your notes as long as your head isn’t buried in them.
- wear clothes/shoes in which you feel comfortable whilst also looking smart. You don’t want your outfit to detract from what you’re saying – either positively or negatively. As demonstrated yesterday, there’s no need to splash out on an entirely new outfit, you can borrow one from a friend or even your mum! For me, the shoes are crucial – wearing heels that are too high affect my ability to stand and breathe properly.
- be well-groomed. Outrageously, I heard a comment on Radio 4 this morning from a tabloid newspaper that Kate “touched her hair too much”. If you had hair that lovely, wouldn’t you touch it? As far as tics go, it isn’t exactly a bad one and I would defy the journalist to present without touching their hair or face at some point. It’s an unconscious thing and doesn’t really affect the impact of your speech. Do your hands shake? Clasp them in front or behind you, in the manner of the Von Trapp Family singers!
- speak slowly and incorporate pauses. This is the best way to get through any sort of public speaking when you’re at all nervous. It wasn’t difficult to tell that Kate was nervous but she took her time whilst reading. She paused between punctuation points taking her time to look at the next sentence so that she could deliver it to the audience with a smile, lots of eye contact and a few hand gestures. Pausing between points really does give the audience a chance to digest what you’ve said as well as giving you that all important moment to breathe, gather yourself and move on towards your conclusion.
The Duchess is quoted as saying “I find doing speeches nerve wracking”. Who doesn’t? Whether it’s speaking up in a team meeting or addressing 100 (million?!) people, it’s only natural to feel nervous. I think it’s worth remembering that if you’re not even a teeny bit nervous, you probably don’t care and that's not necessarily a good thing. Which leads me to my last point for conquering nerves and making a good impression. Speak from the heart. Kate clearly did this yesterday. You could hear it in the tone of her voice and it was obvious from her body language and the warmth of her smile. It only ever gets easier. I promise.
- Suzanne